It really all comes down to knowing yourself, gaining an appreciation for who you are and leveraging your gifts or what I refer to as SuperPowers, so you can live a healthy, confident, successful and meaningful life, and as a woman and mother, help others do that too! That’s the secret!
I want to share the what, why and how millions (including myself) are creating an incredible life, increasing not only their impact but also their income by discovering their strengths.
BUT . . . First I want to say, and this is really important to me, that I believe we are all children of heavenly parents who love us, even though we may call them by different names, have different religious affiliations or spiritual practices, we have their spiritual DNA. We have the capacity to become like them, to grow in our knowledge, skills and character. We have the ability to thrive, overcome challenges, reach our goals and most importantly to live our personal missions in mortality. I believe part of our personal missions is to discover our unique gifts and use them to contribute to others, which may be as a spouse, parent, teacher, coach or friend.
When we know our strengths, our God-given natural abilities, not only do we discover our SuperPowers, we stand face-to-face with everything we need to succeed. Whether we’re wanting to lose that extra weight after pregnancy; overcome a health challenge like stress, depression or migraines; run a marathon; or have a better relationship with our spouse or a teenage child; when we know our strengths we can use them to accomplish almost any goal or successfully navigate any challenge.
That is how we become healthy, confident and successful women and moms who do the seemingly impossible with EASE, EXCELLENCE, AND ENJOYMENT!
When you know your strengths, you understand how you:
- Get things done.
- Influence others.
- Build relationships.
- Think strategically.
Let me give you an example of how knowing my strengths has helped me go from a chronically sick mother of young children who
I had been struggling for several years and doing what I knew to do . . . go to the doctor or just suffer through it hoping things would get better.
I was on and off of antibiotics for over a year without ever getting rid of a recurring sinus infection. I started having miscarriages after our fourth child and after spending a lot of time and money with doctors, tests and medications, I had no answers and no baby.
I began having severe pain in my knee and shoulder, preventing me from doing one of the things I loved so much to do since the time I was in fifth grade – cross country running. I was taking A LOT of ibuprofen and acetaminophen. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not so much, but it always hurt my stomach.
I started to feel a lack of energy and what I would call depression. Life was just not happy for me even though I had a great family and great business, I was not myself.
After my first child, I started getting migraine headaches. At first, I tried drinking more water (that’s what my doctor said to do), no help. Then I started taking Excedrin. If I caught the migraine soon enough, I could get rid of it. Then the migraines started getting worse and I added a coke (more caffeine) to the Aspirin/caffeine pill. Then, one day I was driving from Duchesne, the small town where we lived, to Orem (the big city with all the shopping) to get groceries when the side of my head started to pound. “Oh, no a migraine,” I thought. Then my eyes started to go blurry and the left side of my face went fuzzy, kind of numb. Being in the middle of nowhere with the nearest town about 20 minutes away I prayed to know what to do. “Should I pull over, should I continue to the hospital.” I continued to the Heber City Emergency Room with my two rambunctious kids in tow. We sat there until they could do an MRI and give me a very expensive, but pain-relieving pill. The MRI checked out fine, the pill fixed my pain and I was good to go!
It didn’t sit well with me though. Something wasn’t right with my body, it was trying to tell me something, but I wasn’t sure what. Then I had my first awakening of sorts on Christmas day 2010. I woke up to our kids’ excitement AND a migraine. “Seriously, on Christmas day?” My kids were so excited, but I was in extreme pain. I faked happiness long enough to get through the present-opening, then I finally had to give in and shut myself in my room, lights out, “kids be quiet.” I felt like the worst mother. I couldn’t even show up for them. I vowed while laying in my bed that things would change, but I didn’t know how it was possible. I just knew I needed to figure it out.
The second epiphany came when my friend, Alisse, gave me some essential oils for allergies I was having while we were standing in a hayfield flying kites with our two families. I had taken allergy medication since my first girls camp at age 12. Traditional healthcare was all I knew, so I laughed inside when she offered an essential oil. “What was rubbing a perfume over the bridge of my nose going to do for my allergies?” Well . . . not only clear up my itchy, watery eyes, nose and throat in minutes, but change the direction of my life.
This is where my strengths, my SuperPowers enter the picture. One of my top strengths is called “learner”. This strength is a strategic thinking talent. It means that I naturally love learning. You’ll find me always reading books, listening to podcasts, attending events, and going to new classes because I…Love…Learning. If you have this strength, you know what I’m talking about. After my experience with essential oils, I thought to myself, “I wonder if there are essential oils or some alternative solutions to my health issues?” That experience opened me up to that possibility, which I had never considered before AND it was natural for me to start learning about the conditions I was struggling with, to scour the internet, listen to webinars, read research articles and blogs to start looking for alternative options to the ones I had been trying.
I found a lot of great research on essential oils for mood and emotions, pain, immune support and so much more. I took an assessment that pointed me in the direction of possibly having a gut issue because of all the medications I had been using and because of my standard American diet (a lot of sugar and processed food). This led me to learning more about nutrition, detoxing and a lifestyle that would support a healthy life, physically and emotionally.
My superpower learner came out to help me discover what my body needed to heal itself. Other solutions could have come up, those where just what I discovered at the time, but it didn’t stop there. That was just the info or strategy for getting well, I had to execute it, do it, get it done.
I have two strengths that help me do that, one is called “Achiever” and the other is “Focus” – it’s how I execute on a plan of action. As someone with a Focus strength, I do well with goals. When I have a goal it’s almost like I have tunnel vision. I can eliminate distractions, delegate them or put them off for later. I can concentrate for long periods of time as I’m working on my goal. This had combined with my learner as I was coming up with solutions and devising a plan of action.
As an achiever, I make a list of things to get done and I do it. I love the feeling of accomplishing a task, checking off the boxes. (That’s how I created this despite not having a love of writing, I put it on my list of things to get done by noon today). I printed out a meal plan to help my body heal. I created a shopping list, a food prep schedule, a daily food menu, a supplement regimen, and an essential oil schedule and I just checked off the boxes each day. I was faithful to the list. These strengths are what helped me create a complete turnaround in my life. These same strengths and others are what’s helped me to go from a person who grew up on free school lunch to having a million dollar work-from-home business, with flexible hours, becoming debt free, raising six amazing kids, and having a happy marriage – being a healthy, happy, confident and successful wife and mother.
Don’t get me wrong, life is not bliss. I still have challenges. Currently (as of this writing) I’m working on tennis elbow and high hamstring tendonitis, which makes it painful to do many things in life, let alone run. But, I’m using my strengths to face the challenge, learning the many different options. Besides the traditional options of MRI, steroid injections, pain medications, and physical therapy, I discovered something amazing because of my learner strength – MFR, myofascial release – it’s rocking my world and I’m seeing amazing progress as I’ve created a plan/list for implementation of this each day. (that was a real sidetrack, but I use my unique strengths EVERY DAY to be and feel successful, see progress, bring hope to tough situations or big dreams).
Now if YOU had that same health challenges that I had been facing, you could tap into your unique strengths and get the same result, but “how” you do it would be different. For instance, you might have a strength called “relator” where you build strong, deep relationships with a small group of people. In those relationships, you may have reached out for help from someone you trusted. They may have had insights to help you, like “Oh, I’ve dealt with similar issues and a health coach who I trust might be able to help, let me introduce you.” You build a trusting relationship with this health coach where you are able to open up about your physical and emotional challenges and because of that openness, the coach discovers that you are really struggling with sugar cravings, you’re eating a lot of processed foods and have classic symptoms of candida and recommends some nutritional changes and supplements. So you end up going down that path and when you find an option that you want to try instead you’ll need to be able to execute what it will take to achieve the change you want. Instead of being an achiever, maybe you have a strength in discipline. Someone with the disciplined strength enjoys making a plan in advance and following the plan. That’s the natural way you get things done. You say to yourself, “I’m not eating sugar because it’s part of the plan, so you don’t eat sugar. I eat xyz and do xyz because it’s part of the plan.”
You end up getting the same result, but “how” you got there was different.
When we use our strengths, the goals we want to achieve or challenges we want to overcome can be done with ease, excellence, and enjoyment. We get excited when we use our natural strengths. We have added energy.
When I was researching candida, to this day I remember the energy, hope, and excitement I had. I remember sitting in my office, inches from my computer screen and I scrolling through page after page . . . and I loved every minute of it. Why? Because I was living my strengths. I love learning.
Our strengths are natural ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. If I try to use strengths that are not my natural way, it will be a constant struggle. If I try to employ discipline into creating a healthy lifestyle, I personally hate it. I know this because I’ve tried it. I can make changes for a week or so, but it’s just so much emotional work that I give up. Then I think that something is wrong with me and that begins to destroy my confidence.
This is just a very small glimpse of what discovering your strengths can do for you and you’re probably wondering, “How can I discover my strengths and use them to reach my goals and overcome challenges?”
The best and easiest way I’ve found after 10+ years of learning about this is through the Gallup strengths assessment. I’ll explain more about the assessment and how you can take the assessment if you haven’t already taken it. If you’ve taken the assessment, but don’t know how to use it to effectively, that’s part of the mission of my online presence. You’ll find invaluable resources to help you on my website and social media outlets. And if you don’t want to take the assessment, I’ve included two other ways you can begin discovering your strengths. They are effective and I recommend them even if you have taken the assessment, just know they do take a lot more time and effort.
Gallup research finds that people who use their CliftonStrengths are 6x more productive and 3x more likely than others to have an excellent quality of life. Isn’t that what you want?
Here are some additional outcomes from discovering and using strengths:
The best mothers boost their kids individual and family performance by using strengths. Children and youth succeed when they discover what’s strong in themselves, instead of focusing on what’s wrong. This builds confidence in children.
When you know your unique set of talents, you’re empowered to succeed by doing what you naturally do best. Every. Single. Day.
Armed with greater self-awareness and a new language for understanding and discussing what they naturally do best, people who know and use their strengths are more likely to:
- be confident
- feel happy and energetic
- achieve goals
- be treated with respect
Plus, people who use their strengths are less likely to experience deterrents to their well-being, like worry, stress, anger, sadness or physical pain.
It all adds up to being 3x as likely to report having an excellent quality of life.
What You’ll Experience
- an introduction to CliftonStrengths that includes results for your first five of Gallup’s 34 Strengths themes
- a basic understanding of who you are and how you can succeed using personalized insights about your first five Strengths
- proven methods to improve your performance, thanks to suggestions for how to apply your first five Strengths to every part of your life
What You’ll Get
- Strengths Insight Report. Get in-depth analysis of your top 5 Strengths. Unique to your specific combination of Strengths, this report describes who you are in astonishing detail and gives you details about your strongest Strengths and what makes you stand out.
- Strengths Insight and Action-Planning Guide. Along with a detailed breakdown of each of your top 5 Strengths based on your unique Strengths profile, this guide includes 10 action items for each Strengths theme. Use this guide to start applying your Strengths every day.
- Your Signature Themes Report. This report lists your top 5 Strengths so you can identify your dominant talents and start leading a strengths-based life.
- More tools and resources. Dive deeper into strengths-based development with introductory videos and other supporting materials.
How It Works
- Redeem the Top 5 Strengths access code.
- Create an account if you do not already have one, or log in if you have an account.
- Complete the CliftonStrengths assessment.
- Use your Top 5 CliftonStrengths results to start doing more of what you naturally do best.
How To Get an Access Code:
- $12.99 through me (Gallup gives me discount codes because I’m a Certified Gallup Coach. No, I don’t get any kickbacks from this. It just saves you money and you get immediate access.)
- Buy the StrengthsFinder Book and get the code for free. Don’t buy a used book, most likely the code will have been used. (FYI – all the information from the book comes online when you take the assessment)
- Buy the assessment straight from Gallup without the book – you can take the assessment now versus waiting for a book to ship.)